A lot of guys confuse an adult friends list with the proverbial “little black book”. You have to remember that if you’re setting up a little black book, you’re just setting up a list of women that you call on a whim to have instant sex with. This is essentially a booty call list.
Now, there is some overlap between this type of list and an adult friends list, as you can see right here. The big source of the overlap is the fact that these women are reliable. They know that you know that they know that they’re just in it for the sex. Everybody’s cool, everybody’s on the same page. Well, the problem with an adult friends list is that in many cases, people put sex partners there that have no right being there. Seriously, they get all confused and they list people on their adult friends list that they shouldn’t list. This opens a whole can of worms. This sets these guys up for all sorts of unnecessary drama and headaches.
Sure, the element of willingness and eagerness to have sex is always there. This is what an adult friends list has in common with a little black book. I’m going to give you that, but the problem is just because somebody’s consenting to the sex doesn’t necessarily mean that that person is able to separate her emotions from her physical actions with you.
You have to remember that the moment you have sex with somebody, you’re not just sharing parts of your anatomy. You’re not just sharing your spit, your saliva, your sweat, and your time. You are, in many cases, entering their heads. In many cases, you’re entering a very private sphere that taps into a very deep reservoir of emotions, spirituality, and personality. This is very, very sensitive stuff and unfortunately, as much as we would like to think that we can create these artificial walls between our emotions and our physical selves, nine times out of ten, we’re just fooling ourselves.
This is where things get a little weird. So, a lot of guys put women on their adult friends list who are actually just friends who want to become lovers. By lovers, I’m not talking about a one-time booty call here and there. I’m talking about somebody who actually wants to be your wife. So, do you see where the drama can explode? And these women can say, “Hey, it’s okay for you to bang all these other chicks,” but deep down they want you for themselves.
I’m telling you right now, it’s not going to end up in a happy place. This is why it’s really important to be very careful as to the women that you put on your adult friends list. It’s not as easy as you think.